The conversation about introducing something into your and your partner’s sex life can be difficult, but it’s an absolute necessity. Since you’re together in this relationship, it’s important that such decisions are made through communication – some people are simply not comfortable with the idea, and it’s their right, as everyone has different boundaries. You cannot present someone with a fait accompli, as it definitely won’t go well, and in some cases, you might even find yourself single.
However, you need to properly prepare yourself for it – it’s not something that you can just bring up at the breakfast table. That’s why we are here. Such a conversation is no different to any conversation about introducing sex toys into your bedroom, and we will be treating it as such.
So, what do you need to remember when introducing your sex doll to your partner?
Remember About the Right Timing
We already mentioned it briefly, but “when” to have a conversation is an important part of ensuring that it goes well. Definitely don’t try to start it by bringing out your sex doll as you and your partner are about to have sex, which, unfortunately, many people make with other types of sex toys. The only situation in which this is fine is when your partner is someone who enjoys surprises in the bedroom, and you know it won’t make them uncomfortable.
If they’re not that type of person, set aside some time, and tell your partner that you need to talk to them (don’t use “we need to talk” though – god only knows how nervous those words can make a person).
Don’t Be Frustrated
An important thing to remember is that even if you’re frustrated with the quality of your current sex life, that’s not something you should start the conversation with. If you start talking badly about it, and your partner has insecurities you don’t know about, it might feed right into them, and you’ll achieve the effect opposite to the one desired.
Instead, try talking about what things you can do to improve your sex life and talk about introducing a sex doll as one of the possibilities. After all, sex is teamwork, so it’s important that both you and your partner strive to bring the most pleasure to each other.
Don’t Force Them to Have the Conversation
If you start the conversation and notice that your partner is clearly growing uncomfortable and doesn’t want to continue talking about it, don’t force them to do it. Just say that it’s alright and that you can have this conversation another time. Wait a few days or weeks, and then try to bring it up again.
If the same thing happens again, consider first talking about why such topics make your partner uncomfortable and what you can do to make it better. In many cases, it’s not the conversations about sex in general that make them feel this way, but rather the topic of sex toys and sex dolls and the stigmas surrounding them.
Be Open
If your partner decides that a sex doll is something worth introducing into your bedroom life, don’t dictate to them what they should do with it and what it will look like. Many people need to get used to the fact that technically there’s someone else in the room with them, and this is even more prevalent in those who never had sex with more than one person.
Let them meet your sex doll and decide for themselves what they want to do with it.
Who knows, maybe they’ll pleasantly surprise you with their creativity.
